2008-06-18
when friends become fucking idiots
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I'm in week two of working with the nutritionist and fitness coach. The first week I lost 6 pounds. For my second week I'll just be happy to keep the 6 pounds off. We'll worry about week three when it gets here.
I am finding myself in a situtation of low tolerance for a long time friend. As I've mentioned in the past, my friend Shell had lap band surgery. She went into it with a less than stellar attitude in my opinion and as a result of not fixing what is wrong in her head, still tries to eat like she's not banded. So far she's had one complete unfill. I'm sensing from what she's told me of her eating (and getting food stuck) that it won't be the only time. My biggest issue is that her doing this is going to really screw up her health and she'll have to have the band removed. Also, if this does happen, I'm positive she will chalk it up to band failure and no fault of her own. This is the first part of the equation that is ticking me off.
The other part, which I'm finding pretty much intolerable is that she is dating a complete and utter loser. Seriously, he makes her ex-husband look like prince charming. He's frauded social security by getting disability and starting his own business using the payments (landscaping, not a desk job.) He claims he can't afford his insulin so he takes his father's from him. He's on disability because of a farming accident that resulted in his toes being amputated. The hinkey part of that is he's not a farmer. He's still not healed 6 months later because he hasn't taken care of the wounds. He has told her that getting the economic stimulus check canceled his medicare benefits automatically, but if you look at the social security website you see that the medicare requires a monthly payment to have and I'm betting he hasn't paid it.
Besides this, he's not divorced yet! He's been seperated for over 2 years and his wife won't sign the papers because she wants half of a settlement he's suppose to be receiving. Shell seems to think this is horrible of the woman, yet Shell got half of her ex-husband's accident settlement ...
He has three children and his child support is paid courtesy of the tax payers. Plus he has this habit of drinking when his blood sugar is out of whack and driving. He called her last week from the parking lot of a restaurant and he was drunk. When she got there he was passed out. He (and she) claim he only had two drinks. Just driving without taking his insulin is bad enough for me. Actually, I'm disgusted by that. Anyone who'd risk other people's lifes like that are assholes.
She was so upset by this that she spent the whole next day in bed, depressed. After all, this is the man she plans to marry next June and have more kids with. She's giving him two months to get a job with benefits. She said if he doesn't, she'd dump him, but I highly doubt it will happen that way since she's talking marriage after dating two months.
Let's see, have I forgotten anything? He only has three teeth in his head because of a life time of no dental hygiene. He smokes heavily (but can't afford insulin?)
This is the fifth or sixth guy she has dated in the few years since the divorce. Almost every single one has been allowed into her 11 year old daughter's life. Each one is a bigger and bigger loser. What she's teaching her daughter about self respect makes me ill.
If she stays with this jerk, I cannot support her relationship. Not happening! The band crap I can ignore, but this ... no way.
I'm not asking for solutions, I'm just venting.
thanks~