2007-06-26
asshats and idiots
I have officially given up on my friend who had the l@p b@nd surgery. I will continue to say my cheery bullshit when she tells me what is going on, but I will not bother with more than that.
Why?
Today she is allowed to start eating "normal" foods. I said I hope it went well and she proceeds to tell me about the two foods she has had problems with already: cheeze fries and hard shell tacos.
I don't know what to say. I even went to a l@p b@nd support page, got a log in id, and tried to get suggestions on how to be a good friend and support her. I was told to mind my own business, not keep tabs on her eating, say nothing, stop being the food police, and work on my own damn health.
Did I mention the whole lot of them were defensive psychopaths? I told them she was sending me texts of the things she was eating and they held no nutritional value and while I don't understand why you'd have surgery only to not follow the rules, I wanted to know what I can say in response.
Talk about a group of defensive assholes! I was also informed that as long as she's losing weight, she's doing things right, that I'm just jealous I can't lose on junk food, and that it's not about nutrition, it's about losing weight. Another good one is that fat people and thin people don't give a shit about nutrition. Even better is thin people eat whatever they want in whatever quantities and they all want to be like that.
Um.
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I'm fat and I care about nutrition. My sil and nieces are thin and they don't eat "whatever they want" and do things that I never considered, like pass on foods because they aren't worth eating. My attitude has always been more of the "but the mashed potatoes are THERE" where my sil is of the attitude "why would I eat those when there are better things I could eat."
Silly them, they also know when they are satisfied and if their pants get tight, they reign things back for a few days.
But what do I know? The board people know everything about weight loss and surgery is the only thing that works. You are one of the lucky ones if you can eat deep fried tators dipped in cheese made of plastic and the rest of the world is jealous of you.
They were all able to spout off what they tried that failed. I can spout off my friend's too. Every single one of them didn't stick to what they were doing, got bored, and gave up. But things are different now so I need to just shut my food policing mouth up.
So I give up. I already know my friend's mentality is in par with the boards. There are few to none as far as complications, this is the only thing that will work, etc. etc.
Disappointed? Yes, I am. I'm so sad that she is approaching it all this way.
I'll keep on my own path, even though I was told I'll never lose without surgery. *rolling eyes* We'll see now, won't we?